Now that my nest is Empty… I have time to share my unsolicited advice to the next generation. Lucky you!
Now that my children have left the nest and are off living their independent lives, it has given me time to reflect upon several ideas that I think are important for a successful life. When your kids are home, especially during their high school years, there is never enough time to contemplate life as much as we would like. We work through the family’s scheduled activities with our heads down, focusing on what project needs to be done next. Sound familiar? We just don’t have time for “personal pondering” about what we think, or even what matters to us (and not our kids). As parents we have a laser beam focus on their needs and what we can do to make their life the very best possible.
Now that my nest is Empty, I have much more time for these thoughts and feelings to come to the surface. In the middle of the night I was thinking about key concepts and ideas I wish I had known when I was in my twenties. I am not suggesting we are too busy to guide our children when they are young. Just that a reminder is helpful and I have just assembled a few important ideas I would like to share. My guess is that you probably will agree with these and have others you would add to the list!
1. Be proud, stand tall, don’t be afraid to try new things.
2. Quit worrying about what other people think! The tiger doesn’t worry about what the lamb thinks, right?
3. Read! Work on yourself, take time to improve YOU! You must read books, practice your craft and run the distance. Do what it takes to GROW as a person.
4. Stay away from chemicals anywhere that you can. Try to eliminate toxins in your food, air, water and other household products. I just don’t believe people take this idea seriously enough.
5. Take care of your health NOW. Don’t wait until your 5o’s to get started, begin in your 20’s.
6. Be loyal.
7. ALWAYS tell the truth.
8. Don’t waste time. (Turn off the video games)
9. Write down goals. What do YOU really care about? Follow your heart.
10. Ask someone who is older, that you admire, to mentor you and give you suggestions for the future.
With age comes wisdom, but when you are young it is beneficial to get a head start by listening to someone older than you, that has made plenty of mistakes, but has experienced success as well. If you are afraid of failing, try anyway. Most often you learn more from difficulties than you do from success. Don’t get me wrong, success is a fabulous feeling! But you can still build on the failures and learn from them.
Love your family, love your friends, be appreciative and be grateful. <3
9 thoughts on “Unsolicited advice to the next generation”
Suzanne, I love this list, and think it is great!! I would add to have fun and laugh everyday! There is always something to laugh about!
Thank you Dede, I love your additions to the list!
Kerry – thank you – when you make a list like this you can continually add to it! I love your additions! Thank you for reading and for your comments!
This is a great list, Suzanne! I agree with “laugh everyday” as it feeds our soul. I would add always be kind to everyone you meet. That is a characteristic that I think is missing or rare these days. We taught our daughters to be good humans from the time they were little and I am so proud when I see them act on it.
Love all these “tips” and definitely need to follow some of them better! I think laugh every day is my favorite 🙂
The sound of laughter is my favorite sound! Glad you liked the post and I appreciate your comments!
Thanks for stopping by Popcosmo! Glad I found your blog and this is some wonderful advice – I particularly like #2,6,7. Actually all of them, but those are the ones I seem to focus on telling my kids daily!!
xo ~kim & chloe
You are welcome! I am thrilled to have you here on my blog! I write about all types of things: food,fun and family – anything that is happening in our world! Thanks again for stopping by and I hope to hear from you again soon!
I endorse all your suggestions except “ALWAYS” tell the truth. I think it’s more nuanced than “ALWAYS”. I think it’s ok to not tell the truth or to avoid the question when the truth would be hurtful and when there’s no reason you have to hurt or upset the person. (Sometimes, you have no choice but to tell the truth despite its capacity to be hurtful). But, I’m a lawyer, so ALWAYS tell the truth under oath.